There will always be judgey moms who call you a “bad mom” – oftentimes even in your own social circle. I have been judged harshly by some for “choosing” not to breastfeed for medical reasons. I had friends think it was cruel for me to put my child in her own room to sleep in […]Read More Implied Judgement is Still Mom Judgement
The recent Cry-it-Out arguments and “Breast is Best” competitions on my facebook have devolved into commentary about how “90% of the world doesn’t see it this way”. Possibly true. But I especially love these comments from people who have never been to the developing world for more than a luxe holiday. I get that many […]Read More The Romanticism of Third World Motherhood
You may be aware of the phenomenon of “Dad Bod”. It typically describes a man who is “chubby” or a bit rounder but certainly not morbidly obese. It’s actually a fairly endearing comment to make about celebrities that is less about making fun of a guy who has gotten a bit “soft” and more about […]Read More Mom Bod and Body Policing in Motherhood
I’m starting into the 2nd trimester of my pregnancy. It’s a time I looked forward to for a few reasons. One, I had a miscarriage the cycle before this pregnancy early on. Each week is a big achievement. Two, it meant we could announce that we were adding a third kiddo publicly and feel safe […]Read More I don’t want your mints, ginger, or judgement.